Succeed at Your New Year’s Resolutions

Everyone Makes New Year’s Resolutions

Most everyone makes New Year’s resolutions but less than 20% of the people that make New Year’s resolutions actually succeed at them. Why is that? Many reasons, a few reason are– our lives are busy, people tend to procrastinate, many people set unrealistic goals, they aren’t specific about their goals, or they don’t have the tools available to follow through on their goals. Then the question is how to beat the odds and succeed at your New Year’s resolutions?

Traditional Advice on Setting New Year’s Resolutions

This is the usual advice most advice columns after New Year’s parades out, that still has people not succeeding at their New Year’s resolutions:

1. Make your goal realistic and attainable.
2. Make your goal public.
3. Break your goal down into bite size mini-goals.
4. Substitute good behaviors for bad.
5. Track your progress.
6. Reward yourself.

So why doesn’t this advice work for most people. Part of the challenge is people only do part of the process and work, but more importantly they haven’t done the groundwork to succeed.

Beliefs + Intentions= Goal Outcome

Conventional wisdom says if you want to know what you believed 3-5 years ago, look at your life today. So with that thought and resolutions in mind–you need to have the BELIEFS to SUPPORT YOUR INTENTIONS, that will HAVE YOU SUCCEEDING AT YOUR GOALS! If your beliefs don’t support your goals you will not be able to manifest your goals and succeed at your New Year’s resolutions, it’s that simple!

How To Change Your Beliefs

Our beliefs are usually attached to emotions, the emotions attached to our beliefs are the glue that keeps them in place. So here are some steps for recognizing your beliefs and the emotions associated with them so you can do some belief busting:

1. Write down your core beliefs about yourself.
2. Once you have written down your beliefs, identify the emotion that is associated with them.
3. A thought by itself is just a concept, so we can pick up an idea or drop it in a moment.
4. Now, it’s getting in touch with the idea that emotions are not facts.
5. Letting go of the emotion associated with the belief because it is not a fact.
6. Pick another belief that is positive to substitute for a belief that has a negative emotions attached to it or change the emotion associated with the belief.
7. The strength of the emotion associated with the belief will let you know how challenging it could be to change the belief or emotion associate with it.
8. It’s about changing your belief about yourself at a subconscious level that drives behavior.

How to Stop Mind Chatter

The Buddhist call it Monkey Mind, many counselors call the messages we hear in our brain mind chatter, but no matter what you call it those messages that you say during the day to yourself can dictate the outcomes in your life. So how to realign your mind chatter to be more positive perspective? One thought at a time.

As a thought enters your head that doesn’t support where you want your life headed, replace it with a thought that does support what you want in your life or how you want to see yourself.  You can also come up with a quick retort, that you say to yourself, when a negative emotion attached to a thought comes into your mind with saying no, go away, get out of here, gone, your choice of words that work for you. The idea is to subvert the automatic process of a certain thought and emotion coming up and stopping you from seeing things more positively or taking positive action.

Belief Busting Made Simple

So it comes down to busting the beliefs that don’t support who or what you want in your life. Sounds overwhelming, but it is actually a simple process, but it needs to be done for each belief you hold.

1. First step is writing down all your beliefs about yourself, work, family, life, money, etc.
2. Divide these beliefs into 2 columns; beliefs that support you and are positive and beliefs that are negative.

Now the process for busting the beliefs that holds you where you don’t want to be:

1. Understand the different parts that make up a belief–the text, context that they show up in and then the emotion attached to the belief.
2. Release the emotion held with the belief you want to let go of. This can be done by dropping a pencil, like the Sedona Method, writing them on paper and burning them–your choice. Use what is most effective for you.
3. Observe from the Neutral Observer standpoint, where you see no spin or history attached to the belief, and see that the belief is actually false and doesn’t support your true identity.

It takes time to do the practice the first time, but actually over time you can do the practice on the fly, in present moment and do your life at the same time. It just takes practice, but it opens the door to being able to achieve your New Year’s resolution and having an empowered life.

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